I’m back!! and….

Hi, guys I really missed your comments and support ;sorry for being lazy lately but I have been going through allot including calling off our wedding — FYI my ex fiance was an amazing American guy– and trying to get-over the thought of wither it was the right decision or the wrong one? Hopefully it was right although I lost my best friend for now!

as you can all tell I was raised all my life in Saudi but I was influenced by my spiritual father while growing up. Because of that I am different than the regular Saudi female, and no one thought I will ever be able to settle down with an Arab! so the sweet American husband — currently my disappointed best friend– was what everyone else expected to be the ultimate fit for me. through the breakup it was really hard to feel single again as everyone thought we are going back together and that he was my Only Hope to have a family!! Of-course because no Arabic Man, would want to marry a women who doesn’t want to change and loves being strong to speak her right without buttering her words and act like he’s her hero!! but that is every man not only Arabs, most of strong looking men –in general– like to feel they are saviors or chasers and i am not interested in these two types!! but still like to be with a strong-good- looking man who doesn’t need to save me from my womanly demons !!

Yes, I will be blogging about my experience and my thoughts and my search for what they call love not from my prospective only!!– i have never been in a happy love–but I’ve been asking couples and elders about what they mean when they say ( I am or I was in Love) and I am concentrating on the happy love not the dramatic falling-in-love type of love..

I think there is a different love that we cannot reach, because we are influenced by all the old sad stories that ends with marriage = happiness??? We became brain washed and are forced to believe that sadness leads to happiness! example: the more your in pain because u miss someone this means you love them more than someone else who it doesn’t hurt as much to miss!!

maybe I am wrong and maybe I am right, maybe I will find the happy love and maybe the only love out there is the dramatic love!!

bare with me and please support me in my search for the happy love!! maybe you can tell me your story and the happiest love that is free of major drama you’ve been or still in?

Have a nice weekend, I’m about to finish mine

Faithless Sex in The City

Did you ever wonder if girls and boys in Saudi have any sexual relations before or out side their marriage?

The answer is not shocking at all its Yes. The interesting part of answering that question is that Sex before marriage is not excused for girls but when it comes to the guys its actually considered a good experience or an important practice before marriage. Yet the most shocking part of the answer will be that men affairs in Saudi or in the Arab world in general are excused within the men community and many times in the women community as will. Of course on the other side woman infidelity is intolerable but you know that already.

Let’s be clear here, I am not talking about the fact that in Islam, men are allowed to have four wives so please don’t depend on that as a example, a reference or a support for this discussion; basically Lets not even go there.

What I want to discuss here is the part where men infidelity is expected or at least more excused in so many families. As an Arab woman you are probably familiar with the usual answer you will get if you asked anyone –woman or a man– (Why?) They will first say (He is just a man, they all do that.)

You know what, Believe it or not, other men around the world don’t do that people. Men who cheat on their wives “in this side of the world” are the men with no manners and people don’t respect them or trust them after that. So dear Arab men, for your information cheaters are not considered cool and cheating is not a manly act. Also “in this side of the world” Cheaters are actually criticized by their peers for cheating. Of course, not all men will think cheating is immoral and terrible unless they’re good men. To be honest I will have to admit that there are more considerate men here “in this side of the world” than in the Arab world.

I am just sharing a point of view here; I hate that in our Saudi or lets say “in the general Arabic culture” there is a part that accepts immorality. With everything the Arabs cry about in Islam, you would guess that with all these religious restrictions on little stuff like “No pork” which they will not even argue about if you should eat it or not; they will be more of Islam perfectionists, but when it comes to immorality they have so many excuses and reasons to explain why its not as bad. Isn’t that silly! I don’t want to fix the world but I really want people to give a value to their manners and ethics. But I guess this is a whole generation problems and not in the Arab world. Of course it will be more of a problem in the next few years because the new generation every where are becoming less considerate and ethical but if we don’t do anything about it soon our kids will be the worst generation in the whole planet.

Another addition to my opinion is that I don’t expect any of the Arab’s who I am talking about in my post to be able to read or speak English & I don’t also think they will be interested in blogging. The nice majority of Arabs I am talking about are probably with no enough brain cells to handle more information other than how can they hide their “secretive” Prepaid cell number from their wives

Baries al Gulf

Excuse me No, it’s not Paris it’s Baries

Just 10 years ago young men– called Jeddah the Baries (Paris in English) of the region. I mean, it’s true that Jeddah girls are known for being the prettiest compare to the rest of the gulf. But to be honest in Jeddah you can actually see the girls and you can see their faces too –head cover was more forced then but not the face– maybe that’s why they are prettier hmmmm. Anyways, now a days Dubai is the center of attention in the gulf and the whole world ,but not sure though if we should call Dubai the new Baries or just Moscow Al -Arab hehehe I am being mean!!

Jeddah Gheer!!

Yes, Jeddah is the most diversified city in the whole country. People are friendlier and women don’t have to cover their heads most of the times..

“Jeddah Gheer” means: Jeddah is different. The tourism officials generated this slogan to advertise a national campaign. The campaign was to encourage Saudis to discover their own country and invest their vacation money within the country. The reason behind that is because Saudi does not have a visitor’s Visa system so the country cannot have tourists visiting from outside the gulf region, unless they’re coming to Saudi for religious purposes or for business. Why? I don’t know! But all I know is they had to keep all those luxurious hotels and furnished apartment building’s “In Business” for the whole year around. By the way Jeddah gets really busy and crowded during the holy month Ramadan, the holiday Eid and holy month Hajj.

More about my city to come, live with this for now.